I've always been on the outer fringe of the running world- I've never had a running partner, I've never joined a running group, and I've never really participated in local (non-race) running events. I'm not proud of this fact, it's just the way it's worked out...I guess I've always just assumed that I'd be a fairly undesirable running partner since I'm slow, I take frequent walk breaks, I like to wear my dorky Fuel Belt every time I run, I'm super
UNcompetitive (so you definitely wouldn't look to
me to push you outside of your comfort zone), I don't like to exert myself and I rarely, if ever, develop or stick to a training plan. (But other than all THAT, I'm just nifty to run with!) I guess you could say I've suffered from RLSE (Runner's Low Self Esteem) for years, and that's unlikely to change. Unless I start taking 'roids...which is tempting, but I hear expensive. And I think illegal. Plus there's the hassle of having to shave my new chest hair.
So despite the occasional internal twinge or two urging me to reassess my lack of running companionship, I think I'll be content leaving my situation unchanged. I've somehow managed to gleam enough information, motivation and upcoming race info by surfing the web, reading a dozen or so running books and combing through Runners World magazine. That's not to say I wouldn't enjoy a running partner, because I definitely can acknowledge the incredible benefits of having one! I just need to find a way to get over my incurable RLSE.
Because while I'm always mildly embarrassed whenever I'm easily passed by other runners, I've been even more embarrassed ever since I moved here and have found myself consistently in the bottom 1/3 of the field. The problem is, whatever impassioned vows I make to start incorporating speedwork into my workouts are quickly abandoned (since they involve exertion). I suppose I'm just lazy. I do still set SOME goals- like in preparation of the Wobble & Gobble, I've made an effort to run a few more hills while pushing Ryan, but I do it so slowly and lazily that I'm not quite sure there's much of a benefit.
I try to focus on the fact that at least I'm out there...but it's hard to get past when you're painfully reminded of your inadequacies every. single. race. day. I wish I could embrace that I'm not that hot of a runner just so I can move on with my life and quit moping about it. But there's this niggling thorn in my side that keeps telling me that simply caving in without a fight just makes me a big, giant panty, and that I should at least TRY to run a little faster for a few months and see how I like it.
Because if I've learned nothing else over the past year, it's that that saying your parents used to tell you- "I know you THINK you'll hate it, but try it! You might like it!" is often true! (Though not always...I still hate OATMEAL, dad and mom! See?! All those times I puked it back up were REAL!!!) In the last year or so, here's what has surprised me:
THINGS I THOUGHT WOULD SUCK, BUT ACTUALLY REALLY ROCK:
1. Preschool. Though always grateful for the opportunity to be there, I was mortified about it for months! I could NOT believe that I was sitting in a circle with other mommies singing silly little songs about frogs. I REJOICED everytime there was a holiday or school break so that we didn't have to go. Now, I can't wait to see how excited Ryan is whenever he knows it's 'Time to go to school!' and I mourn the days he cannot go.
2. Pottery painting. Like making origami, making cards, scrapbooking and gift wrapping...I considered pottery painting to be 'Stuff my mother does that I would NEVER do.' I thought it was boring, expensive and required artistic talent or creativity (all not true, except for the expensive part). I've come to LOVE my twice monthly pottery nights with the girls. Tonight I even found myself trolling around on Etsy looking for design ideas that I can steal! ;-)
3. Running. Four years ago, I only ran for two reasons- 1) If a scary dog was chasing me, or 2) If you told me someone was handing out free Cheetos up ahead (original Cheetos of course, not the new, harder kind). I couldn't understand why people would want to get all sweaty and out of breath. Now I get that like many things in life (and this does not apply to all runners), sometimes the joy is not in doing the act itself, but in the end result. Nothing makes me feel more strong or confident than finishing a run.
4. Parenting. I never understood the appeal of total self sacrifice. I always secretly smiled and patted myself on the back anytime I saw a struggling, exhausted parent haul their fussing child off to the potty in the middle of dinner for the THIRD time while I contently and peacefully polished off my supper, completely uninterrupted... Now everytime Ryan learns a new word, smiles and dances and twirls around unabashedly, that it's a truly priceless experience that makes my life richer, deeper and more meaningful. I may always struggle with being a parent, I think we all do...but it's undoubtedly worth it...once.
So I'm going to make a bold promise here today (because if I'm tired of writing about it, I know you're tired of reading about it)- that as of this weekend, I'm going to either come to peace with my chilled out pace, or I'm going to start doing speedwork. I have a feeling I know which option I'll pick, but then again, you never know, right? I just might like speedwork! ;-)